We often encounter similar situations. It ranges in our daily habits. But there are times when we find ourselves in situations where we have some terrible experiences linked. 

I know that the title seems wrong. But this is what I have observed in myself and the people around me.

I have often seen people quitting because they couldn’t understand a topic, including me. I didn’t accept I was doing it, but I did. 

This is the step where many problems remain unsolved and accepted as our “capabilities,” which are less.

After doing it once, it does a chain reaction with other fields, in which we think that we can’t do that and then another too. 

On another end of the spectrum, as an application of this fact, people continue reading subjects, regardless of whether they understand them or not, just to say in their inner self that they are trying. This will not do any good because you are continuously not understanding the topic.

So, understand more. It will solve most problems in your life. 

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It might happen to you that you have learned and got impressed by people's qualities and wanted to connect with them. So you tried to talk to them, but they spoke unfriendly to you. In this case, most begin disliking them or blame themselves for liking such people. 

Then let me tell you. This is very common. It happened to me also. 

But, As I wrote previously, disliking them is not the solution?..... Then what is? 

It is to accept that despite their outstanding qualities, they are still humans. They make mistakes, they get jealous, they mistreat some. 

Haven't you done that at some time?

We all have and realized later that it was wrong. The same can happen with them, possibly.

That's why forgive them, as you did to yourself.

But, until they realize this, don't go around them all the time in the hope that they will speak nicely to you at that time.

When they start developing kindness in themselves (yes, it can be learned), they will come to you; you don't have to go to them.  

Perspective matters

This mistreatment is advantageous when seen from a different angle.

Let me explain...

 You have seen many good qualities in them and wanted to form a connection so that you can learn worthful stuff in their company. So, go ahead. You don't necessarily need to be in their company to grow. But, you need to believe in the quality, not just a person who possesses it.

 You have gained a lot from them, and they don't even demand anything from you. Isn't this good? .... You have learned without giving anything in return because they don't require from you. It might feel unfair, but it isn't as you want to give, but they don't want to accept.

This doesn't mean that you should not well behave with them later (in case they come to you later) to get this benefit. Both have different advantages.  

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 Meeting new people is crucial. When we restrict ourselves to a fixed number of people, we won’t know what qualities we lack. In this case, your judgement about your abilities becomes predictable after some time. It is because when you only see yourself working well (according to your set parameters), then there is a probability that you will have a feeling of superiority. But when you are in the company of many people and see some working well in a field. Then, your assumption is proved false. Then, you can learn from them and try to improve.

Also, we tend to miss and forget many things, but some people don’t. So, being in their company can remind you of those.

By meeting new people, I don’t mean prioritizing it over everything. I also don’t mean that we should keep more and more people in our lives, but those who possess valuable qualities. I know that very few people work seriously for their aims. It’s just that meeting more people increases our probability of meeting them.

If you are in college, then the best way to do this is to take part in a college fest. Another way is using social networking sites wisely to find them and learn more from their ideas.

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There is a very high probability that you have heard this before. Earlier, I thought that destination is more important than former because we want something and working for it is the best way to get it. The times in which we are working for it has to be painful to get it. Later, after getting a few desired successes, I realized that the happiness it gives is momentary that is sometimes infinitesimally smaller than the time devoted to work for it. So, if the preparation time is not good, then you are going to regret it later.

What does enjoying the journey means?

 The word ‘enjoy’ is often misunderstood. People visualize parting, dancing, etc., when they encounter this word. But it is more than that.

You enjoy the journey when you take small breaks during preparation consisting of resting, laughing, pursuing hobbies. More importantly, it lies in appreciating yourself for working smart and hard, even when nobody else did. It also lies in thinking about the upcoming work.

An analogous incident, which might sound funny

I watched web series and became desperate to know what would happen next. I only wanted it to reach the ending and didn’t pay attention to episodes in between Here, the episodes in between are analogous to the journey and the final episode to the ending. It means that I was not enjoying the journey. When I realized this and started watching one by paying attention to all episodes, I liked it more.

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“Language…has created the word ‘loneliness’ to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word ‘solitude’ to express the glory of being alone.” – Paul Tillich