It might happen to you that you have learned and got impressed by people's qualities and wanted to connect with them. So you tried to talk to them, but they spoke unfriendly to you. In this case, most begin disliking them or blame themselves for liking such people.
Then let me tell you. This is very common. It happened to me also.
But, As I wrote previously, disliking them is not the solution?..... Then what is?
It is to accept that despite their outstanding qualities, they are still humans. They make mistakes, they get jealous, they mistreat some.
Haven't you done that at some time?
We all have and realized later that it was wrong. The same can happen with them, possibly.
That's why forgive them, as you did to yourself.
But, until they realize this, don't go around them all the time in the hope that they will speak nicely to you at that time.
When they start developing kindness in themselves (yes, it can be learned), they will come to you; you don't have to go to them.
Perspective matters
This mistreatment is advantageous when seen from a different angle.
Let me explain...
You have seen many good qualities in them and wanted to form a connection so that you can learn worthful stuff in their company. So, go ahead. You don't necessarily need to be in their company to grow. But, you need to believe in the quality, not just a person who possesses it.
You have gained a lot from them, and they don't even demand anything from you. Isn't this good? .... You have learned without giving anything in return because they don't require from you. It might feel unfair, but it isn't as you want to give, but they don't want to accept.
This doesn't mean that you should not well behave with them later (in case they come to you later) to get this benefit. Both have different advantages.
Thanks for reading
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